Here is a blog that I started some … 2-3 months ago, so I decided that it was time to complete it, as life continues to move forward; with family on the occasion still choosing to interfere in my life. FAMILY… ohhhhhh!
It’s a beautiful sun shiny day outside… and i was inside walking around in my underwear, (as you do when you think no one is looking) i had no need to get dressed, as i wasn’t planning on going anywhere or expecting any visitors.. so here i am strolling around the house without a care when a freaking car pulls up in my driveway.. damn! My bloody father is here…. Look i know its his place and all; however a little freaking respect would be nice. A phone call to say you’re coming over with family in tow. I like my privacy and if i want to walk around the house or property in my underwear i should be able to. So he pulls up and I’m running around the freaking house like a idiot looking for a pair of shorts to throw on.
Disappointment… big time as I was looking forward to a day without people in my energy. Just me and mother nature -my bird friends and the the wind blowing through the house, cooling down the already warm day.
I’m in pain, feel tired and restricted by my own freaking mind craziness of what the freaking hell am i going to do today. So here i am writing, not sure what I’m going to write about.
Looks LIKE ITS ABOUT BOUNDARIES…….And how my family lack in showing me some respect. Dad just turns up whenever he feels like and Mum doesn’t know when to back the freak off – you don’t phone my friends to see where I am or how I’m doing, if i wanted you to know i would contact you, talk to you or even tell you. You jeopardized my friendship and put them in an awkward position.. how dare you do that, sort your own freaking life out would you and leave mine along. You have no right to interfere.
“Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits.”
Yes its all good to have those boundaries in place, however if you do not actually let people know what your boundaries are, it will cause you stress or some other problem. So speak up and allow others to know just what your boundaries are, and eliminate the extra stress that did not need to happen… And setting those boundaries is a great way of to care for yourself, it doesn’t make you mean, selfish or uncaring, its about whats right for you in your life… So ask yourself:
- What is right for you?
- What values do you have?
- Do you lack boundaries in your life? Why?
- Loss of self, always allowed others to dictate your life goals
- What would you like to change today in your life?
- What boundaries do you wish to set for a better self care?
Boundaries are healthy, normal and necessary. Healthy boundaries are not walls. They are the gates and fences that allow you to enjoy the beauty of your garden.